But the signs can still be used to signal to someone and then lead to you getting into a cubicle together. Particularly in Europe the cubicles tend to have dividing walls much closer to the ground so it would be difficult to get anything underneath. Not all bathrooms are suited for understall activities. If you see someone then it's probably worth giving out signals of your own. They'll often be sitting down somewhere quite unusual, standing still looking at everyone and often checking them out, or wandering around but not actually leaving the general area. In addition to the specific signs mentioned above you can also generally tell when someone is looking for action. Look for their signs first if you're not sure of their intentions, but be sure to reciprocate at an early stage so that they don't lose faith and leave before you're able to engage with them. How can I tell if someone is cruising/into me?īasically the reverse of how you would show that you're cruising/into another guy. For location-specific instructions see the location tips under ' Beginners Tips'. While you could go from eye contact to sex within seconds in a sauna or club it will probably take several minutes for either party to be certain of intentions at other locations. If you're in a lesser known cruising spot (public bathroom, locker room, outdoors etc.) then you can follow the same instructions but much more slowly and carefully. It's up to you whether you want to initiate and get naked/exposed first or if you wait for them - a lot of people recommend always waiting for them to initiate as to avoid trouble with 'undercover' police, but if everyone thought the same way then nobody would get any action. Once you're wherever you were planning to go you can be quite confident that they're looking for the same thing as you. If they've returned any of your signals and/or they follow you to the private spot then you're good to go. Move somewhere private, continuing to keep eye contact.Gesture/grab/rub your crotch while holding eye contact or looking at their crotch.Make eye contact, hold it, then subtly nod/smile.If you're in a dedicated cruising spot (adult bookstore, sauna, dedicated bar/club) then you can be quite forward because it's basically guaranteed that other guys there are also looking to cruise: How do I show that I'm cruising/into someone?ĭepending on the location you might need to be more or less obvious with your signals to avoid causing trouble with uninterested/unaware guys. It's immoral, obviously illegal, makes them uncomfortable, and gives cruising/cruisers an even worse reputation. Never, under any circumstances, expose an unwilling person to your cruising activities or attempts. If you have something to add then by all means message the moderators. How can I tell if someone is cruising/into me?.How do I show that I'm cruising/into someone?.